Bereaved by Suicide

Bereavement from a suicide can bring additional feelings. Even when the person you cared for has made previous suicide attempts, perhaps been very depressed or self-harmed, their sudden death is still likely to be a shock. Nothing can prepare you for this.

You may want to know why someone you loved or cared about took their own life. The emotions that you feel can be powerful, frightening and overwhelming.

It can be hard to talk to people about what has happened – you may not be sure about what to tell people, or may be upset by other people’s reactions.

Regardless of the circumstances, you will probably need support, perhaps from friends or family, or maybe from an independent source eg a counsellor or support group.

The Scottish Association for Mental Health (SAMH) has produced a booklet called 'After a Suicide' which looks at some of the emotions and practical issues someone bereaved by suicide may face. For example :-

Emotions– Why did they do it?, Guilt?, Confusion?, Helplessness?

Practical Issues– Registering the death, funeral expenses etc.

Investigations and inquiries- By the Police, the Procurator Fiscal and others

Contact details – Of organisations and groups that may be able to help you.

"Learning to accept that someone has gone doesn't mean forgetting that they played an important role in your life, and that they always will" (SAMH 'After a Suicide' Booklet)